Everyone wants to be liked by others, but relationships are complicated, and sometimes our actions and words can cause unexpected misunderstandings or misinterpret the distance between us and others.
In this article, we will introduce three characteristics of haters and tips on how to protect yourself.
Characteristic ## 1: The Kleptomaniac.
Someone who is always receiving.
A kurekure star is a person who is always getting something from others and never gives anything back.
This type of person is very active in satisfying their own needs, but they do not show appreciation or reciprocate in any way.
In terms of the relationship between giver and taker, this type of person is clearly on the side of the taker.
Such a one-sided relationship will, over time, place a heavy emotional and sometimes financial burden on the other party.
The “Kurekure star” who constantly asks others for favors but does not give back himself/herself will be an exceptionally disliked person.
And the scary thing is that many kurekure star do not act in this way with any particular malicious intent.
In other words, they are not aware of it.
Specific examples
- They take people’s favors for granted.
- They only impose their own convenience on others.
- Blames others for his/her own failures.
- Takes it for granted that he/she is being treated to a treat.
- He/she demands gifts.
- Always borrows money and never returns it.
How to Avoid Becoming a “Kurekure Seinin
- Give something from yourself.
- Put yourself in the other person’s shoes.
- Show your appreciation to the other person.
- Always return what you borrow.
How to deal with a kleptomaniac
- When lending money, make the term and interest clear. It is better to put it in writing.
- When lending something, decide the loan period and return method.
- When you are asked to do something for a favor, tell them your convenience and conditions. When refusing, give a good reason.
- Keep your distance from the person.
Characteristic 2: Mounting person
Mounting is when a person puts others down in order to elevate himself/herself.
Mounting is the act of showing off one’s superiority and is used figuratively, from the behavior of animals threatening each other to determine rank.
A person who mounts seeks to show that he or she is superior to the other person and to gain the upper hand.
The behavior of looking down on others in order to increase one’s self-worth is an obstacle to interpersonal relationships.
These people try to increase their self-worth by talking down to others and bragging a lot, which causes them to be avoided by friends and colleagues.
Associating with a person who mounts up is exhausting and takes up a lot of mental energy and time.
Specific examples.
- Letting you listen to them brag at length about their educational background, work experience, assets, etc.
- Dismissing others’ opinions.
- Pointing out or making fun of someone’s shortcomings or failures.
- Interrupting or changing the subject.
- Appeals to others that they have it harder than they do.
- Thinks he/she is perfect.
How to avoid being a Mounting Person
- Respect others’ opinions and feelings.
- Recognize others’ strengths and successes. Compliment people honestly.
- Show that you are willing to listen. Include pleasantries and questions.
- Refrain from talking about your own struggles and boasting. Be interested in other people’s stories.
- Accept that you are not perfect.
How to deal with a person who is mounting you
- Do not agree with them.
- Be cool and pass it off.
- Value your own values.
- Keep your distance from the person. **
Characteristic 3: Frequent bad-mouthing and negative remarks
Frequent bad-mouthing or negative comments about others will also be avoided by those around them.
Such a person will gradually be shunned by those around him or her, leading to his or her own isolation.
A vicious cycle of bad-mouthing everyone
People who speak ill of others and make negative comments are a source of great stress for those around them.
People who speak ill of others will manifest their habit everywhere, making those who listen uncomfortable.
No one is happy to hear bad language, and bad language always goes around and reaches the person’s ears.
A person who destroys the atmosphere of the place
At an enjoyable gathering or drinking party, a person who makes negative comments will destroy the atmosphere of the place.
Participants are there to have a good time, but comments that depress them are not welcome.
You will not be invited to the next meeting.
Specific examples
- Complains and grumbles.
- Complains and complains constantly.
- Criticizes others’ appearance or character.
- Cannot be honestly happy about others’ success or happiness. Envies or belittles others.
- They rejoice in others’ failures and misfortunes. Instead of consoling them, they push them further.
- Boasts about their unhappiness.
How to avoid becoming a person who speaks ill of others and negatively.
Recognize the influence of your words.
Swearing and negative remarks not only hurt others, but also worsen the atmosphere around you and damage your own reputation.
It is important to always be aware of how your words affect others.
Keep a positive mindset.
People who think about things in a bad way tend to speak ill of others and make negative comments.
By being grateful and thinking positive thoughts on a regular basis, you will naturally become more cheerful in your remarks.
To build trust with others, try to communicate in a positive and constructive manner.
Control your emotions.
When we are angry or frustrated, we tend to speak ill of others or make negative comments.
It is important to take time to calm down and not get emotional.
Specific ways to do this:.
- Take a deep breath
- Count to 10
- Step away from the situation
- Ask someone you trust to listen to you
- Write down your feelings on a piece of paper or on your phone
Consult a professional if necessary
If you are unable to refrain from swearing or negative comments, one option is to consult a professional.
A counselor or other professional can offer advice and support to help you resolve the problem.
- Lead the conversation with positive topics.
- Do not agree with bad or negative comments. There is no need to argue with the person.
- Maintain a mental or physical distance from the negative influence.
- If someone says something negative or depressing at a drinking party, don’t get on their case. Enjoy yourself. Talk positively with others.
- Keep your distance from that person.
Summary
People with traits that are disliked by others are unaware of the impact of their actions and words.
If you are around someone with these traits, it is best to keep your distance if possible, but if you cannot say so, such as at school or work, use this article as a guide to devise ways to protect your money, time, and mental health.
If you find yourself in any of these traits, self-reflection and compassion for others will help you to have better relationships.
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