We have all felt that we are a clod at some point in our lives, haven’t we?
But there is no need to belittle yourself like that.
No one is perfect and everyone has flaws and weaknesses.
The important thing is to accept your ‘clunker’ status quo and keep improving yourself.
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6 steps to getting rid of being a clunker
step 1. recognise your ‘clunkers’. Definition of a clunker
First, write down in detail what aspects of yourself you feel are ‘clunkers’.
Example:
- Frequently loses things
- I am loose with time
- Not good at public speaking
- Not organised
- Negative thinking
For each ‘clunker’,
- I have had problems in specific situations
- How it affected you
Write down the following information.
Example:
- I often lose things:
-> Lost an important document, which affected my work.
-> Forgetting your phone in the toilet. - Lose track of time:
-> I was late for a meeting and made the other person angry.
-> Being on time or late is an everyday occurrence. - Not good at public speaking:
-> I have failed at important presentations and have been embarrassed.
-> I get nervous in front of people of the opposite sex. - Difficulty in keeping things tidy:
-> Rooms are so dirty that I am embarrassed to invite friends and loved ones in.
-> I only need to throw out the rubbish once a month. - Negative thinking:
-> Thinking about failure all the time, I lose confidence and have no motivation to do anything.
-> “anyway” is a habit of mine.
By writing down specific situations and their effects, you can objectively grasp how serious a problem your ‘clunkers’ are.
step 2. Start with small goals.
If you suddenly set big goals, you are likely to fall behind.
Start with small goals that are easy to achieve.
Here are some examples of specific goals for each ‘clunker’.
Lose things often:
- Put keys, wallet and phone in their place every day before bed.
- Always keep important documents in a file.
- Organise your bag so that you can quickly access what you need.
Loose with time:
- Leave the house 10 minutes early.
- Set an alarm on your mobile phone.
- Use a time management app.
Public speaking difficulties:
- Practise speeches in front of family and friends.
- Attend a speaking class, such as a Toastmasters club.
- Read books on voice and speaking.
Difficulty with organisation:
- Clean your room or desk for 10 minutes every day.
- Don’t try to tidy everything at once, but organise little by little.
- Use storage items.
Negative thinking:
- Say positive words to yourself once a day.
- Write down what you are grateful for.
- Write down what you are good at and what you are good at.
These goals are just examples. It is important to set reasonable goals according to your situation and abilities.
When you achieve your goals, give yourself a pat on the back. Acknowledging yourself, no matter how small, will build your confidence.
step 3. Don’t beat yourself up.
Don’t beat yourself up if you fail or fail to achieve your goals.
No one is perfect. The important thing is to learn from your mistakes and make the most of them.
Failure is an opportunity to grow.
Acting proactively without fear of failure will give you confidence.
Also, rather than beating yourself up, encourage yourself.
Acknowledge yourself for doing the best you can.
step 4. Rely on those around you
Don’t keep it to yourself, ask for help from those around you.
Having someone you trust, such as a family member, friend, boss or senior colleague, listen to you can help you to feel better.
It is also important to find others with similar problems.
Encouraging and building each other up can help you regain your confidence.
With the help of others around you, you will be able to solve problems that you cannot solve on your own.
step 5. praise yourself.
When you have achieved something, praise yourself.
It is important to acknowledge yourself, no matter how small.
Example:
- I finished work on time today!
- I made it to work today without being late!
- I was able to speak properly in public today!
- I was able to clean my room today!
- I felt positive today!
By praising yourself,
- By praising yourself, you will gain confidence and move in a more positive direction.
- Your self-esteem will increase and you will like yourself more
- You will have the courage to take on difficult challenges.
This can have the following effects.
By developing the habit of praising yourself, your life will be richer.
step 6. keep improving yourself
To get out of the ‘clunkers’, it is important to keep improving yourself.
Self-improvement includes,
- Acquire knowledge and culture through reading and study.
- Exercise or play sports to strengthen your body.
- Aim to acquire qualifications
- Try new things through hobbies and volunteer activities
- Improve your appearance.
There are many ways to improve your appearance.
It is important to find a method that suits you and work on it continuously.
By continuing to improve yourself,
- Gain confidence and recognition from those around you
- You will be able to try new things
- Your life will become more fulfilling.
You will be able to take on new challenges, and your life will become more fulfilling.
Summary.
Everyone has ‘clunkers’.
The important thing is to accept your ‘clunkers’ and keep improving yourself.
Use the tips in this article to start improving yourself.
Through self-improvement, you too can gain confidence and lead a fulfilling life!
Have a Good Life!
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